What can I do to help my child when a change of plan feels very big for them?

Short answer

When a plan changes, say what changed, what stays the same and what happens next.

What this can look like

A cancelled playdate can remove the picture your child was using to prepare.

Why it can happen

A change can remove the preparation and sequence a child was using to feel ready. A clear update and a moment to regroup can reduce distress and conflict.

What might help

Name what changed, what stays the same and the next plan in simple words.

What the research helps explain

Australian autism guidance and research on masking describe meaningful differences in sensory experience, communication, routines, transitions and recovery. Family support should be person-led and context-aware; one trait or difficult day cannot establish autism or AuDHD.

What can vary

Children differ widely in communication, sensory needs, recovery and the support they want. Similar experiences can have other explanations. A public page cannot diagnose a child or prescribe support without understanding their context.

For this situation

For you, give notice where possible and do not expect instant adjustment every time.

More info and original sources

Poko summarises the relevance of public original sources and links out for anyone who wants to read more.

• National Guideline for assessment and diagnosis of autism — Australian evidence guidance on autism assessment, varied presentation and appropriate limits.
• Autism Support Strategies — Australian public guidance on practical, person-led environmental and communication supports.