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What can I do to help my child when they know what to do but still cannot get started?

People come here to understand why something in everyday life feels harder, different or more costly than it should — and what might make it work better.

Short answer

Knowing what to do and getting started are different skills.

What this can look like

Your child may explain homework but still not open the book.

Why it can happen

A child may understand the instruction while still needing the task broken down, materials placed nearby or an adult to begin alongside them.

What might help

Make the start physical and tiny; sit nearby for the first two minutes if that helps.

What the research helps explain

Executive-function research describes attention, working memory and flexibility as developing, limited and context-sensitive processes. Children benefit when adults make tasks clear, reduce unnecessary load and build skills without drawing conclusions from everyday difficulty.

What can vary

Children develop at different rates and behaviour can change with sleep, health, stress, learning, sensory environment, relationships and task design. A public page cannot assess or diagnose a child; seek appropriate advice for persistent, severe or concerning changes.

For this situation

For you, ask what part is hard: remembering, choosing, starting or staying with it.

More info and original sources

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