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What can I do to help my child when they keep moving the goalposts after they meet them?

People come here to understand why something in everyday life feels harder, different or more costly than it should — and what might make it work better.

Short answer

Bring your child back to the original goal when the target keeps moving.

What this can look like

They may complete the original task and immediately find a new flaw to fix.

Why it can happen

After meeting a goal, they may only see the next thing that could be better. A simple written purpose can help decide whether more work changes the outcome enough to matter.

What might help

Return to the first goal and ask whether the extra work will change what matters.

What the research helps explain

Research and public guidance describe perfectionism and overcontrol by their impact on finishing, flexibility, relationships and quality of life. High standards can be useful; a public page cannot determine whether a child has OCD, OCPD, anxiety or another experience.

What can vary

The same behaviour can have different meanings across development, learning, family life and school. Do not label or shame a child; focus on the cost, their choice, and the support that helps them stay connected and able to learn.

For this situation

For you, name the progress you can see without forcing praise they do not believe.

More info and original sources

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