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Why do decisions take me so long?

People come here to understand why something in everyday life feels harder, different or more costly than it should — and what might make it work better.

Short answer

Decisions can take a long time when every option feels permanent or morally loaded.

What this can look like

Choosing a meal, reply or purchase may feel permanent when it is actually easy to change.

Why it can happen

Sort choices into reversible and hard-to-reverse, then use a time limit for the reversible ones.

What might help

Sort decisions into reversible and hard-to-reverse; time-box the reversible ones.

What the research helps explain

Research and public guidance describe perfectionism and overcontrol by their impact on flexibility, finishing, relationships and quality of life. High standards can be useful; a public page cannot diagnose OCD, OCPD, anxiety or another experience.

What can vary

The same behaviour can have different meanings in different contexts. This information must not be used to label yourself or someone else.

For this situation

For you, choose a decision rule before reopening the options.

More info and original sources

Poko summarises the relevance of public original sources and links out for anyone who wants to read more.