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How can I help someone when time disappears when they are trying to get things done?

People come here to understand why something in everyday life feels harder, different or more costly than it should — and what might make it work better.

Short answer

Time can disappear when someone is absorbed or lacks useful transition cues.

What this can look like

They may look up and find that an hour has gone, especially during something absorbing or after a change of plan.

Why it can happen

Offer a respectful reminder tied to a real next event, rather than monitoring them.

What might help

Agree on one reminder linked to a real event, such as lunch, pickup or a meeting. A reminder is a support, not a way to police them.

What the research helps explain

Executive-function research describes attention, working memory and flexibility as limited, context-sensitive processes. Good support changes conditions and asks permission; it does not turn a pattern into a label.

What can vary

Health, stress, sleep, task design and personal preference can all matter. Do not infer a diagnosis or speak for the person.

For this situation

For you, agree on the cue and timing together.

More info and original sources

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