What can I do at work to help someone when they copy other people all day and then feel wiped out?

Short answer

Do not mistake polished performance for zero cost.

What this can look like

A person may look polished in meetings and still spend high effort tracking expectations.

Why it can happen

Some staff may work hard to match expected communication or social norms while using substantial energy. A culture that values clear work over performance of personality is safer for everyone.

What might help

Judge work by agreed outcomes, not a preferred performance style.

What the research helps explain

Australian autism guidance and research on masking describe meaningful differences in sensory experience, communication, routines, transitions and recovery. At work, person-led, context-aware options can improve access without requiring a person to disclose or be identified as autistic or AuDHD.

What can vary

People differ widely in communication, sensory needs, recovery and preferred support. Similar experiences can have other explanations. Do not infer identity, ask for private information or make adjustments conditional on disclosure.

For this situation

For you, allow direct communication, quiet participation and different ways to contribute.

More info and original sources

Poko summarises the relevance of public original sources and links out for anyone who wants to read more.

• National Guideline for assessment and diagnosis of autism — Australian evidence guidance on autism assessment, varied presentation and appropriate limits.
• Autism Support Strategies — Australian public guidance on practical, person-led environmental and communication supports.