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What can I do at work to help someone when people think they are critical when they are trying to be careful?

People come here to understand why something in everyday life feels harder, different or more costly than it should — and what might make it work better.

Short answer

Make careful feedback easier to hear by anchoring it to the shared outcome.

What this can look like

Detailed feedback can sound like rejection when the shared goal is hidden.

Why it can happen

Specific observations can feel critical when purpose, context and choice are missing. Explain the impact, invite the other person’s view and agree on the next move.

What might help

Start with the outcome, identify one specific issue and agree a next move.

What the research helps explain

Research and public guidance describe perfectionism and overcontrol by their impact on finishing, flexibility, relationships and quality of life. In a workplace, clear standards, proportionate quality controls and fair management are useful without deciding whether an employee has OCD, OCPD, anxiety or another experience.

What can vary

The same behaviour can have different meanings in different work contexts. Do not diagnose employees, request private medical information or make support conditional on disclosure. Focus on task demands, impact and a workable agreement.

For this situation

For you, separate feedback about work from conclusions about personality.

More info and original sources

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