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What can I do at work to help someone when they need to give feedback without making people feel they have failed?

People come here to understand why something in everyday life feels harder, different or more costly than it should — and what might make it work better.

Short answer

Use feedback as information for the work, not as a test the employee must pass.

What this can look like

Feedback can become a pass-fail test when it is vague or personal.

Why it can happen

Start with the shared aim, describe the concrete issue and agree on a next action. This protects care and dignity while keeping standards clear.

What might help

Keep it specific, tied to work and paired with a workable next step.

What the research helps explain

Research and public guidance describe perfectionism and overcontrol by their impact on finishing, flexibility, relationships and quality of life. In a workplace, clear standards, proportionate quality controls and fair management are useful without deciding whether an employee has OCD, OCPD, anxiety or another experience.

What can vary

The same behaviour can have different meanings in different work contexts. Do not diagnose employees, request private medical information or make support conditional on disclosure. Focus on task demands, impact and a workable agreement.

For this situation

For you, invite the employee’s view of the constraint before deciding the fix.

More info and original sources

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